Life is a pandora’s box full of natural surprises that none of us can truly predict. Some like to believe God has a purpose for them while doing for them what they cannot do for themselves. Others may hold onto the belief that destiny has already created its path and they are just pawns of fate in the game of life. Then there are some that convince themselves that life is but a dream as they row their boat merrily down the stream into oblivion.
There’s a lot that happens in such a short period of time in this long life we’re given. Some things happen that we have to learn to roll with the punches, wherein other times we have to take a stand and assert ourselves. There’s no question about it though that there is plenty that will remain out of our control. It’s reasonable to believe that none of us have the tarot cards that spell out our future clearly. It’s up to us to decide that future.
We can fight or make peace. We can bully or coexist. We can obsess on chemicals or feed off wisdom. The choice of that future lies completely in us. So in that same breathe, we are the key deciders of all. Yet, not everybody deals with their problems in the same manner. This is why it’s easy to recognize how bullying and drug abuse go together like disease and rot. More times than not, one poisonous thought feeds into another. In the end, whatever that person’s beliefs are, it’s going to take action before any mental antidote can be concocted.
A Fragile Mind
Somebody wise once said, “Bullying builds character like nuclear waste creates superheroes. It’s a rare occurrence and often does much more damage than endowment.” They couldn’t be more right. Bullying and drug abuse go hand and hand and it’s a disturbing sight to witness. It’s unclear whether it’s more disturbing to watch how it affects that person upstairs, or how it can affect the victims that our fellow addict turns their misunderstood emotions and disease on.
For starters, it’s important to understand that bullying and drug abuse are both symptoms of deeper psychological issues. Bullying is a learned behavior that manifests itself through misunderstood emotions and mirrored mannerisms. Drug abuse is correlated with alcoholism- which is known to be a disease to those living in the 21st century. Put the two together and we have a person acting out in ways that they are completely unconfident about. Bullying and drug abuse camouflage the greatest of insecurities for some when applied in the right manner.
Digging Up the Roots
When looking deeper into bullying and drug abuse, a vast majority of the time they are related through a revolving door type butterfly effect. Somebody who was bullied as a child goes on to bully later in life- whether that be classmates, co-workers, or their very own offspring down the road. Sure it’s not always case and point, but the domino effect usually takes hold. Bullying can make its presence known through different forms such as:
- Telling lies or spreading false rumors about someone
- Pushing others around to cause fear
- Leaving someone out of activities to cause harm
- Calling someone names or teasing them
- Engaging in physical violence or threats
It’s an uncomfortable scene to uphold. Those who get bullied move on with life, since there is no pause button, and continue forward wondering why them? They may see themselves as an outkast or victimize themselves to a detrimental degree. They may harbor resentment or look for an escapism of sorts that later turns into full-blown addiction. In regards to addiction, whether the victim or the one victimizing, bullying and drug abuse give a perfect bridge for chemical dependency to take over.
Alcoholic Thinking is a Bully
As prior mentioned, those who engage in bullying and drug abuse are proven in study to show more mental health issues than those not involved. The act of bullying can stem from psychiatric issues such as depression, attention deficit disorder, or conduct disorder. Many begin bullying and don’t honestly understand why they act the way they act. They want to get along but have aggressive mannerisms that compel them to do otherwise. The problem is how that behavior is felt and channeled. Some bullies who are self-aware may feel guilty and ultimately fall into drug abuse due to feeling understood by peers.
Laura Crothers, a nationally recognized expert on childhood bullying and a psychology professor at Duquesne University, stated “In terms of perpetrators, bullies themselves, there seems to be a connection between engaging in bullying and using or abusing substances. The idea is that children who are aggressive at a young age tend to seek out peers who are also non-rule governed.“
Before anyone can blink, bada bing bada boom, bullies may start finding themselves associating with people not conducive to recovery or any positive reinforcement. The longing to fit in while adversely causing them to not fit in is wherein a large paradox lies.
The Simple Solution
When undergoing bullying and drug abuse together, we have tinted windows over our thinking. We see things in a selfish perspective, only moving and breathing to take care of number one- our own selves.
Introspection is much of the time an answer to this mental crisis we put ourselves through. We have a choice to be scummy or to be the reason somebody puts a smile on their face.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of reaching out for help/advice. We can’t always see things from the perspective of those on the outside looking in our windows. For many, when it comes to bullying and drug abuse, it needs to be pointed out to them. How can somebody change something if they can’t see it’s existence? Regardless of that belief, we hold the courage to change the things we want to inside. There’s always power sleeping within. When it comes to bullying and drug abuse, it’s on us to decide the size of our footprint left on this world.
Know Somebody Struggling?
It’s no secret that we all have our inner demons. Unfortunately, some people need to be pushed in the right direction to build the courage to face said demons. They can be intimidating, but well worth the battle. If you or a loved one has been struggling with getting a firm grasp on sobriety and need a drug and alcohol rehabilitation center, please call 1-866-663-3030 or visit www.pasadenarecoverycenter.com. Our team of specialists are waiting by to help figure out what options are best for sending your life is a comfortable direction that you can proudly stand behind.